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Today´s society enslaves us with unattainable canons of aesthetic and cultural perfection. The media and advertising broadcast a message highly toxic to the mortals’ morale, so full of “defects”: spare tyres, crooked teeth, low salary, lack of culture… This way, it’s quite normal that people have many complexes. The problem is almost always the image that one has of himself is very different from what others see, and almost always it is much more negative.
A complex is the focus of a real or imagined defect, physical or psychological. The person who has many complexes has a distorted image of himself. There are different kinds of complexes, but the most common are the physical ones, particularly among women. Although there are also the psychological complexes which are increasing more and more, due to a lack of culture or intelligence; and the social complexes, having to do with the scope of money, profession or origins. The low self-esteem is the main factor triggering a complex.
Learning how to live with them is vital. How? Resort to positive psychology. According to the experts, the need of approval from others should be replaced by self esteem. We should accept ourselves! It is better to boast of the virtues, than to humble focusing only on the defects.
We all have complexes because it is part of the human condition. Nobody´s perfect. Without a doubt, the best solution is the acceptance of our imperfections. One must be realistic and see how far one can go.
Certain physical complexes taken to the extreme can lead to serious diseases. Some people dare not to expose his/her body in public places (dysmorphophobia), some people fall in disorders such as anorexia, bulimia, etc. These complexes paralyze their everyday life.
Forget what people say and care about your self a little more. You should only consider your own values, without having to satisfy or please everyone.
Never publicly regret your flaws or limitations as it will only make them more evident. Just show the best of you. As a last resort, you always can consult a professional or opt for aesthetic surgery. But, what is the cost?
Forget those little defects that bother you and invest your time on much more enjoyable things. How about doing a little travelling with your partner? Book your tickets to the Portuguese capital and rent Apartments in Lisbon to find the best accommodation.
